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May 19, 2023May 19, 2023

Life is for Living

Here’s the thing. Life is simply too short and precious to squander it.

I just spent the last two weeks in a complete discombobulation.

Jet lag, new experiences and fresh insights can have that kind of effect on you.

What is it that they say? A mind once stretched cannot return to its original shape?

Yes – my spirit, mind and heart have been stretched once again.

Rather than despair and wishing for the former state, I am endeavoring to move on.

Create new chapters, communities and possibilities.

Go deeper. Yes.

Go further. Yes (again).

Join me in soaking up this truth once more – life is for living.

What’s a good way to start?

Let these quotes from American poet, Mary Oliver (1935-2019) guide you.

Frangipani. Photo credit: Angela Oltmanns

April 12, 2023May 9, 2023

Truth teller – Say Yours with Grace

“When a woman tells the truth, she is creating the possibility for more truth around her.” Adrienne Rich

A quote on truth telling by Adrienne Rich.

We are always presented with two choices when we share our truths.

One way shames others and pulls them down. The other connects people in a
deep and profound way.

The latter way is truly balm to the soul.

So, what kind of a truth teller are you?

I hope you seek to elevate all hearts, minds and souls to their noblest state.

Even with that intention, sometimes it comes out a totally different way.

There are some truths that are difficult, challenging and even painful to share. We usually either avoid sharing them altogether or they are spewed out in the unkindest fashion.

So what do we do with these truths? How can we deliver them as gems for both ourselves and others?

Speak Your Truths Graciously

Examine and re-examine your intent and attitude (mindset).

Here’s a tip that may help. Ask yourself: is what I am sharing an invitation to heal or to tear?

It’s so tempting—and very common—to think we’re out to heal.

If you wish to lead or leave something good behind, it is essential to deliver your truths not only with a good intent, but with care as when applying very strong medicine.

It takes practice, but share your truths powerfully in stories with both lightness and grace.

Remember this:

Truth is beauty.

If there is no beauty in your truth, it's better to not say it no matter how important you think it is.

Choose silence.

Take up the pen. Pour out your mental and emotional noise on paper privately.

Declutter your own thinking first.

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Let the world hear your truths in a beautiful way.

There’s no need to censor your voice. Don’t abandon your truth either.

You are a gracious truth-teller.

Let the world hear your truths.

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March 14, 2023March 31, 2023

Write Your Life Story – Let’s Go!

Write Your Life Story

How do you feel about writing your life story?

Your answer actually reveals a lot about how you relate with yourself.

Unless there’s a narcissistic bone in us (and we all have a bit of that), most of us are really uncomfortable and lazy in taking on the task of writing our life stories.

We much prefer the accolades of others to give us a window into who we think we are or believe in the deceptions of our mind chatter – which is, our lives don’t really matter.

We tend to leave the exercise of telling our own story to the end of our lives or when we happen to be in the limelight. Many of us don’t think we have time for such an exercise. We are fairly content and satisfied if there’s enough money in the bank and have health to enjoy what we love.

Until a tragedy hits, one’s health suffers, a job loss is experienced or we find ourselves up against the wall no matter how much we try.

So, you’re quite right if you think writing your life story is not an easy exercise. But you are richer for it if you try.

Miracle of Life

It’s not easy to live a beautiful life. The great artist knows that. A self aware person knows that. Even many tweens and teenagers know that.

Self-introspection is essential for forgiveness, surrendering and compassion to happen. How does that come about?

Only when we take time to look within. Now, that’s hard work if you do it alone.

Being part of a coaching group or working with a life coach is a more fun way to grow the artistry of your life.

In today’s culture, and even in earlier times, we are fascinated with and interested in other people – particularly people with many accomplishments, extraordinary talent and remarkable skills.

Have you ever wondered why? People tell interesting stories about them – whether inspiring, sensational or sordid. We love to know about the ins and outs, the rise and fall of them. We think we know these movie stars, CEOs, celebrities, famous singers, sports stars by the stories told about them.

Even though these stories are entertaining, they don’t nourish or satisfy us. Just like consuming highly processed food of low nutritional value, we enjoy it in the moment but we ruin our health over the long term.

Instead of consuming, judging or envying their stories, why not take the time to write yours?

What’s your story?

Write Your Own Story

Get clear on your own life story. Try telling it somewhere to someone–even if it’s in a journal to yourself! That clarity provides you a powerful freedom. It gives you the ability to choose a narrative that supports you. In other words, it’s your best defense to live a deep and meaningful life.

You write your life story because you want to become intimately acquainted with yourself. You write your life story because you value truth and self honesty. You write your life story because decluttering all the emotional and mental noise within does wonders for your personal soul and health.

History might record some kind of imprint of you, but what’s more meaningful is to live your life well today.

Your Life as a Story

To move confidently forward, it’s essential to go over one’s past and read the story you tell yourself.

Do you like it? Or are there areas that make you wince?

Write your stories. Get clear about what happened. See where you have recurring loops or patterns. Notice what you treasure. Take note of what is amiss. Reflect, make course corrections, continue doing things you like or write new chapters.

You are the author, and you can edit your own story. Welcome the challenge and write your next chapter.

You don’t have to do this alone. It’s okay to get help reflecting deeper on your life story. To get coaching on writing your story, please find me on Linkedin.

February 7, 2023February 7, 2023

Write a Good Story

What Makes a Good Story?

” Once upon a time…”

Many stories start that way, but does that make it a good story?

How do you write a good story in the first place?

In fact, why bother?

The last question is a good one to wrestle with!

We live and die by the stories we tell ourselves and others. Do you believe you have a good story to tell?

A great number of people today create, curate and craft the storyline of their lives whether it is intentional or not.

The next time you listen or watch something about a celebrity, a CEO, a faith believer, a grandmother, an uncle or a young person – notice what they are saying to the world about themselves.

We are all telling a story about our own life each day, but we are usually barely conscious of it.

Human beings seem to have a drive to explain themselves, a desire to share something about the life they have experienced.

No matter how much or little they say, whether they enjoy the limelight or prefer privacy, there appears an innate drive to let others know that: Hey, we came this way.

For those who wish to lead and make a difference in this world, it is crucial you learn to write and tell stories well.

If you wish to write your story, write it in a way that leads others to a better, broader, deeper and higher place.

Don’t just write a good story about yourself alone. Write it in a way that contributes well to others.

More and more people these days are finding joy and satisfaction in writing their life stories. Formerly known as autobiographies, today we call them memoirs. Not only is it a great way to share your life with others in your own words, it helps you see what matters to you.

Some of us might wish to go further. We desire to write and share stories from our lives that could become a useful social legacy for others.

Unless we plan to die with our stories within us, most likely we will share our stories within a private network of family and friends. A few may let it become known in a public way. Either way, we all want to tell our stories eventually.

How do you begin your story writing journey? Why not ask yourself, “Which one am I inclined to write about right now?”

Who Your Story is For

Everyone should take time not just to tell their stories but also to write them down.

It doesn’t matter if you’re the only reader of your story. In fact that’s a VERY GOOD reason to write your life story. When you take time to reflect upon your life and write it down, you open up the opportunity to explore the parts of you that you haven’t taken the time or have had no desire to examine.

This probably is a reward you didn’t expect: the joy of knowing yourself in a new and different way.

To look at one’s life, and to honestly write about it, requires great courage.

Only you can answer how you have lived your life thus far.

A lot gets revealed when you take time to write and share your story. Self awareness increases. The writing process also hands you the beautiful responsibility of how to live well.

Ultimately you don’t write your story for the sake of a final product like a published book. You write in order to get clear and to grow in the process.

A story is likely to endure if it is bigger than your current self. A good story happens when it is more than your personal voice. It is a narrative others around you and after you can relate and aspire to as well.

So is it possible to write a good story? Absolutely!

But you need to weed out the junk first. Before you spot any diamonds in the story of your life, you’ll probably be looking at a lot of unhelpful noise. It comes with the territory of writing.

It is extremely helpful and essential to be clear about your writing goals and who you are writing for.

Epictetus to the Rescue

“
Tentative efforts lead to tentative outcomes. Therefore,
give yourself fully to your endeavors. Decide to construct your character through excellent actions and determine to pay the price of a worthy goal. The trials you encounter will introduce you to your strengths. Remain steadfast … and one day you will build something that endures: something worthy of your potential.” Epictetus

Learn to push through your own resistance at examining your life through writing.

Rise above those murky waters (inherited or self-inflicted) and birth your story beautifully.

My favorite work is helping others write stories that contribute in a positive and uplifting way toward others.

Does everyone have a good story like that?

My simple answer is yes.

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February 1, 2023February 1, 2023

Life Coaching 101

Life Coaching 101 : Cultivate Wonder

What do you think is crucial in creating a life you enjoy and love?

“It was through the feeling of wonder that people first began to question.”

Aristotle

I believe it is first crucial to cultivate a sense of wonder in your life.

Wonder offers up clues and direction to help us seek and become aware of the things that matter to us.

The feeling of wonder, however, can go missing and become buried by the cares and challenges of life and living.

Therefore, it is extremely important to cultivate simple daily joys so that the feeling of wonder is at hand.

Here’s my recent few examples of experiencing wonder:

The whispers of a gentle breeze swaying tree leaves of gamboge (vivid yellow), scarlet and auburn colors on a beautiful fall day.

The silent but alert smile of a young baby infant, gazing at my face with such full curiosity that for a brief moment, I realize this might be just how the Creator sees me – complete delight and fascination.

The melody, lyrics and expression of a moving song – sung and delivered to me in the most apropos, unexpected moment.

Have you felt any wonder lately? I hope you have.  

Wonder is necessary for vital and wholesome living.

Wonder is that first feeling of sheer joy, delight, happiness and even jubilee at something we just saw, heard and experienced that delights us immensely, that our souls cannot agree with more when we first encounter it.

Each time we respond with an emoji like (party popper emoji), (carp streamers emoji), (confetti ball emoji), (piñata emoji), (partying face emoji), we are saying to the sender: I see and feel the same (lovely/wonderful) thing too!

In other words, wonder is a great friend to have around.

Especially when life is bland, pointless or hard.

~ Angela Oltmanns

Feelings of awe and wonder arise when we are drawn to and witness something out of the ordinary. It can be something simple or very complex. The end result is the same. It tugs our hearts, minds and souls in a most inexplicable and profound way.

1) Start to cultivate wonder in your everyday life.

2) Take note of things that bring you wonder and awe.

3) Notice the stuff that arises – the feelings, the thoughts, the questions.

4) Question everything.

Questioning is a good place to be. Journal or use a coach to help you.

Emojis can quickly and efficiently help us respond to others about how we feel.

It is wiser though to explore deeper the stuff beneath that quick response, the things that cause us to wonder.

This is especially helpful if you are committed to finding out what makes you happy. This is part of everyone’s self awareness journey.

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January 4, 2023January 4, 2023

Life Purpose

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Who am I?

What am I about?

Where am I going next?

What does this planet really need me for?

“If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself, tell yourself that you are not poet enough to call forth its riches; for to the creator there is no poverty and no poor indifferent place.” ― Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

December 22, 2022September 13, 2023

Live More

I recently came across a body of work called VIA Survey of Character Strengths. I quite like the 24 virtues – so much that I worked on a series of designs about them.

As we close out 2022, we may fill our plate with new plans and goals for the new year. It’s a really good thing to greet 2023 with new possibilities.

Hope does lift the human spirit. Good stuff is created when we let our hearts and minds soar high and far.

Tragically, we can become entangled in messes and thoughts that do not help us produce the noblest and highest good.

Do yourself a favor. Let your mind rest and dwell on good stuff.

Here’s the complete set of character strengths for you to consider.

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Today and in the year ahead, endeavor to live more.

Get in touch with your character strengths.

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November 16, 2022January 4, 2023

Trust the Magic of New Beginnings

“And suddenly you know: It’s time to start something new and trust the magic of beginnings.”
Meister Eckhart (1260-1328)

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