Wander to Find Your Way Home

Take a moment for yourself

Wanderings

When we are deeply hurt, the first instinct might be to fix what’s broken—ourselves, the situation, the relationship.

But what if healing doesn’t begin with fixing?

What if it begins with letting your spirit wander?

Wandering invites us to pause.

It gently suggests that instead of trying to make sense of the pain or force a resolution, we step away from the urge to “do” and simply “be.”

In those moments of stillness, the soul finds its own way to breathe again.

Where can you wander today?

The Art of Wandering

Wandering is not aimless; it is attentive.

It is stepping out of the rigidity of problem-solving and stepping into life as it unfolds.

When you wander—whether through a quiet forest, a bustling street, or even your own thoughts—you allow space for emotions to surface without judgment.

You stop steering and start noticing.

  • The way a brook hums over stones.
  • The crisp rustle of autumn leaves beneath your feet.
  • The V-formation of migratory birds overhead, carrying the wisdom of seasons within their wings.
How much of life do you see as an art painting?

You really don’t have to go very far. 

A trip to a familiar place like your local grocery store will do.

The key is to have wonder in your wanderings.

Look at what’s familiar through new eyes.  

Sloww down.  Don’t be in such a hurry. 

Intentionally find beauty in the ordinary. 

Journaling Prompts for the Wandering Soul

As you explore the practice of wandering, consider pausing to reflect with these journaling prompts:

  1. What emotions surface when I give myself permission to wander without a goal?
  2. Where in my life do I feel the greatest urgency, and how might wandering ease that pressure?
  3. Recall a time when you felt unexpectedly comforted by something small—a sound, a sight, or a moment of stillness. What did that experience teach you?
  4. If I let go of the need to solve or fix, what might I discover instead?
  5. How does nature’s rhythm—its cycles of growth, stillness, and movement—mirror or not mirror the way I live my life?

Permission to Do Nothing

To those who are hurting: you are allowed to do nothing for a while.

Let go of the need to fix everything.

Take a walk without a destination. Look out a window and watch the world go by.  Visit a public park and sit there for a while.

Let wandering be your guide.

Wander to find your way home. 

To the place where your soul is at rest, the place where St John of the Cross (1541-1591) calls “my house”. 

Wandering is not aimless; it’s about becoming attuned. It asks us to soften our gaze, notice the small details and listen deeply.

What would you notice about yourself and your life when you do that? 

Join Me for a Focused Conversation?

Shifts happen when you do that.  The world may care about it or may not. 

A deeper life coaching conversation can help unravel more self-insights and provide you with greater clarity and relief from the musings of your head.  

Contact me here for a 3 month life coaching package.

I look forward to working with you and creating a space for clarity, healing and meaningful action.

Make Space for Self Coaching and Self Reflection Time

I love this time of year. 

We are welcoming new possibilities and fresh goals as we enter our last quarter for the year.

Where I live, the cooler temperature is inviting me to invest in greater intentionality in what I do and how I live. 

Have you taken time to create space for yourself to do some self reflection and self coaching lately?

Whether the leaves fall or stay green where you live, October offers a perfect opportunity for the delicious practice of self reflection and self coaching.

“I’m so glad I live in a world where there are Octobers.”

L. M. Montgomery

 

Quote by L. M. Montgomery

 

Self coaching has been on my mind lately.

When my husband first mentioned this concept and practice, I thought it might put coaches out of business.

On the contrary.

The more I explore this path, the more I see how it complements and enriches the already quality conversations with a coach.  

No amount of AI or internal self reflection can replace the nuances that a skilled coach can pick up: what they observe, hear, feel, and sense.

Moreover, a coach’s thought-provoking questions, different perspectives, and new insights are worth their weight in gold for one’s personal growth and development.

Here’s my own coaching on this in a  previous entry  if you’d like to go further.

 

Quote by Tuli Kupferberg

Take time for meaningful discussions, self reflection and great coaching conversations!

A great coach challenges you and stretches your thinking.

An excellent coach holds you accountable in ways you may resist on your own.

A masterful coach goes deeper — they help you look inward and help you get clearer about who you are – your brilliance and your true purpose of living.  

How Self Reflective Are You?

Taking time for self awareness is essential.

It’s important to intentionally pause, even if just for a brief moment, to focus on self awareness.

What exactly is self awareness?

Here’s a definition from Ron (my husband) on it.

“Self awareness is being aware of what is going on inside of you, what you’re thinking, feeling and experiencing.”

Ron Oltmanns (leadskill.com)


Here are a few self coaching questions to consider:

Rate Your Self Awareness:

How self aware are you of what you feel, think and experience each moment?  

Ask the same question stretched over a day or even a week.

Increase Your Self Knowledge:

We become aware of sensations and things that we were not conscious of.   

We are starting to know ourselves.  

What are you conscious of? This can include feelings and emotions.

How much do you judge what you know of yourself?

Be Objective with Your Self Evaluation:

Which one do you do more – tell yourself more positive or negative things about yourself?

And before you quip with a fast answer, I invite you to engage in a 10 minute breathwork exercise.

Observe your thoughts and answers to that question. Observe what comes up without judgment.

You’ll be surprised by what you notice. 

Try recording what you notice in a journal.

Enjoy going deeper visually? 

Check out my video clip of quotes and notebook designs from my Camino de Santiago notebook collection below.  

This October, give yourself a warm hug. Get curious with yourself again.

Until the next time,

Angela

PS. Shop lovingly crafted Camino de Santiago notebooks by clicking the link here.

Find and Offer Your Positive Contributions

john bunyan quote
John Bunyan quote
John Bunyan (1628-1688) quote

“You have not lived today until you have done something for someone who can never repay you.”

John Bunyan (1628-1688)

10 Simple but Deeply Nourishing Things You Can Offer Others

In the hustle and bustle of modern life, it’s easy to overlook the small gestures that can have a profound impact on others.

As a deeper life coach, I’ve seen firsthand how simple, intentional actions can foster deep connections and enrich the lives of those around us.   Your positive contributions matter.

Here are ten deeply nourishing things you can offer others to enhance their lives and your own.

1.  Active Listening
In a world where distractions abound, giving someone your full attention is a rare and precious gift.  Active listening involves truly hearing and understanding what the other person is saying, without interrupting or thinking about your response. This simple act can make others feel valued and understood.

Do you listen well? 

2.  Genuine Compliments 
A sincere compliment can brighten someone’s day and boost their confidence.  It’s important to be specific and authentic. Instead of a generic “You’re great,” try “I really admire how you handled that situation with grace and patience.”

Who will be the recipient of your sincere and honest words today?

3.  A Warm Smile
Never underestimate the power of a smile. It’s a universal sign of friendliness and can instantly make someone feel more comfortable and welcomed. A warm smile can open doors to deeper connections and foster a sense of belonging.

Do you offer yourself a warm smile?  

4.  Quality Time
In our fast-paced lives, spending quality time with someone can be incredibly nourishing. Whether it’s a long conversation over a cup of hot tea, a cold beverage or a walk in the park, being present and engaged can strengthen relationships and create lasting memories.  If time is short, send a genuine text!

Can you give someone an undivided time of ten minutes today? 

5.  A Helping Hand
Offering help, even in small ways, shows that you care.  Whether it’s sharing a hot dish with a neighbor, offering to babysit, or taking time to listen to stories of the homeless at a shelter, these acts of kindness can significantly ease someone’s burden and build a sense of community.

How can you contribute positively to your community today? 

6.  Words of Encouragement
Encouragement can be a powerful motivator. A few uplifting words can inspire someone to keep going, even when they’re feeling discouraged. Simple phrases like “You’ve got this”, “I believe in you” or a couple of emojis can make a big difference!

Is there someone a word of encouragement today? 

Maya Angelou quote
Maya Angelou (1928-2014) quote

7.  Personalized Gifts
A thoughtful gift doesn’t have to be expensive. It’s the thought and effort behind it that counts. A handwritten note, a book you think they’ll love, or a homemade treat can show someone that you’re thinking of them and appreciate them.

What simple thing can you make and offer today?

8. Respect and Understanding
Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and understanding, regardless of their background or beliefs. By showing empathy and being non-judgmental, you create a safe space where others feel valued and accepted for who they are.

Can you give someone space for grace today? 

9.  Sharing Knowledge
Sharing your knowledge and skills can empower others and help them grow. Whether it’s teaching a friend how to cook a new recipe, mentoring a young person, or sharing a good book, you’re contributing to their personal and professional development.

What will you share and to whom will you receive your knowledge today? 

10.  Patience and Tolerance
Patience and tolerance are essential in any relationship. By being patient, you give others the time and space they need to express themselves and grow. Tolerance fosters understanding and harmony, even in the face of differences.

Is there someone in your life who could benefit from your extra patience and tolerance today? 

We all know this well – it’s often the simple, heartfelt actions that often have the most significant impact.

These ten gestures, while simple, can deeply nourish the lives of those around you, creating a ripple effect of positivity and connection.

The world is messy.  Life is hard.  People can be unforgiving.   But we all have within us the ability and capacity to make positive contributions.

The essence of these actions lies in their sincerity and the genuine intention to uplift and support others.

Start incorporating these small yet powerful acts into your daily life, and watch as they transform your relationships and enrich your own life in the process.

Live a deeper and richer life,

With much love and afftection,

Angela


Deep Calls to Deep

“Confessions” by St. Augustine of Hippo

What’s the surest way to become lost in your own life?

I find this self-reflective insight by renowned theologian and writer, St Augustine (354-430) to be quite useful.

Quite simply, when we lose our connection with what’s eternal, there is no deep rest and peace.


In life and at work, we all bear cracks in our heart — fractures caused by loss, betrayal, or disappointment.

Whether you are very famous or just slightly well known in a circle, be UNAFRAID in EXPLORING what’s DEEPLY inside in intimate conversations.

I’m not a therapist but I listen deeply. I ask questions to help you look at things differently and focus on what matters to you.

Here’s one tip for you to practice right away.

What’s something kind you can say to yourself this moment?

Take a minute and do just that.


Here’s another and I hope you remind yourself this often.

Big hug from me to you,

Angela

Trust the Magic of New Beginnings

Also on Linkedin.

“And suddenly you know: It’s time to start something new and trust the magic of beginnings.”

Meister Eckhart (1260-1328)

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